Sunday, August 4, 2013

36,000 Prophets

Two Jews are lost on a deserted island. There are three synagogues on the island... one that A. won't go to... one that B. won't go to... and one that neither A. nor B. will go to.

Many houses of worship are seeing fewer young people and facing smaller congregations.  Post modern families are choosing, instead, fun activities like sleeping in, breakfast out, sporting & recreational activities, errands, shopping, etc. 

What happens when a young couple has a child who they believe might benefit from an ethical education?  Where do they go?  If they consider a small mosque, church, or temple, do they lose interest?  Smaller congregations have the reputation of being intolerant to anyone unlike themselves.  (In Islam that might mean being unwelcoming to Sunnis.  Christian churches may fear gays and transgender families, or those they label as too Woo-Woo or New Age.  In Temple members may avoid someone who is too orthodox or too Bu-Jew.)

A large congregation may appear more diverse; however, there may be covert and passive-aggressive jealousies and competition between members.  For example, who is the best Pakistani Muslim or the best Arab Muslim?  Who is the most liberal or evolved  Christian?  Which Jew is most active in social justice movements?

If people stay away from organized religion to avoid hypocrisy, what promotes a healthy Spiritual Life?  Is it possible (and our responsibility) to bring one's Spirituality more transparently into the secular world?

Community works best when it fosters love and connection.  Ironically, churches often re-enforce separation, alienation, tensions, and differences between people and outsider groups.

Few people know that in the Quran, there is mention of over 36,000 prophets, all respected.  Wherever one is - in time and geography - there is a respected path for that individual.  

Are we able - as Abraham's extended family - to value diversity as much as God does?

Thanks to artist Dave Walker:

Church seating




Let's make ONE DAY ... TODAY!

May each of us, in our own way, positively transform our lives in order to create diverse and nurturing communities.  Here's the youtube video if you wish to sing along.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WRmBChQjZPs

  "One Day" by Matisyahu (Hebrew for Gift of God)


Sometimes I lay
Under the moon
And thank God I'm breathing
Then I pray
Don't take me soon
'Cause I am here for a reason

Sometimes in my tears I drown
But I never let it get me down
So when negativity surrounds
I know some day it'll all turn around because...

All my life I've been waiting for
I've been praying for
For the people to say
That we don't wanna fight no more
There will be no more wars
And our children will play
One day [x6]

It's not about
Win or lose
Because we all lose
When they feed on the souls of the innocent
Blood-drenched pavement
Keep on moving though the waters stay raging

In this maze you can lose your way (your way)
It might drive you crazy but don't let it faze you no way (no way)

Sometimes in my tears I drown (I drown)
But I never let it get me down (get me down)
So when negativity surrounds (surrounds)
I know some day it'll all turn around because...

All my life I've been waiting for
I've been praying for
For the people to say
That we don't wanna fight no more
There will be no more wars
And our children will play
One day [x6]

One day this all will change
Treat people the same
Stop with the violence
Down with the hate

One day we'll all be free
And proud to be
Under the same sun
Singing songs of freedom like
One day [x2]

All my life I've been waiting for
I've been praying for
For the people to say
That we don't wanna fight no more
There will be no more wars
And our children will play
One day [x6]

Sunday, June 9, 2013

COMMUNITY

Each of us have been members of family, work, social, and worship communities.  Each of us have experienced how fear (often expressed in anger, power struggles, passive-aggressiveness, and more) fosters dysfunction.

We are wondering if anyone has participated in a community where fear, amidst diverse beliefs, has been met with valuable tools of healing and cooperation.  We are attempting to teach and further explore healthy community dynamics in Daughters Of Abraham meetings and through this blog.

Historically in the U.S. Christian churches were often a refuge for immigrants seeking familiar ethnic communities.

The same is true even today for Islam in the United States.   More generally, globally, communal prayer (and some readings of the Quran) require a group.  

Similarly, in Judaism, there are specific prayers, including the prayer for the dead, which require a group. This group, called a minyan, must number at least 10 adult Jews.   Exogamy, or the custom of marrying outside the family, is a challenge in small Jewish communities because everyone feels like cousins.  Being Jewish is interesting because it is both a religion and ethnicity. Therefore anyone can join the religion.  (There is a lovely Midrash about joining.) However, once born Jewish one never can really leave.

Young people are quick to see the disparity between what is lifted up as sacred guidance from our Scriptures and what is being acted out between individuals.  If one mixes up the letters of sacred one can type scared or scarred.  Are we scared and scarred from communal wounds?

'Why is it that nothing ever gets done at these meetings?'

'Why is it that nothing ever gets done at these meetings?' by Reynolds, Dan

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Sunday, March 24, 2013

Pleasuring Women According to the Scriptures

Today's Daughters Of Abraham started with a Jewish joke.  I have never heard this coming from a Christian pulpit, but I intend to use it.  This surprising religious humor illustrates, for me, the difference (I think, as a Christian pastor) between Judaism's more healthy & open attitude about sexuality compared with the more uptight, restrictive, and shaming (in my opinion) Christian view of sexuality.

A Rabbi and a Catholic priest are sharing a theological conversation and meal.  The priest says to the rabbi, "Come on, you can tell me, have you ever tasted pork?  It is really delicious.  You don't know what you are missing."

The rabbi confessed, "Well, yes, I have to admit that one time... and only one time.. I tried bacon.  It was delicious."

The rabbi leaned over to the priest.  "So, Father, you took a vow to be celibate.  Did you ever slip?"

The priest had to confess as well.  "Well, yes, there was this one time.  Yes, I sinned."

"You gotta admit, the rabbi said, "Sex is better than pork!"

After a good laugh we turned to the Hebrew Scriptures.  In Exodus 21:10 we read the Law concerning female slaves: "If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish the food, clothing, or conjugal rights of the first wife." Under Jewish Law, if a man does not please his woman, she may divorce him!  The rabbis actually made a recommendation that a scholar needed to please his wife at least 14 times a month, while a laborer (who is physically more tired) needs to please her fewer times per month.

No Calvinist or Lutheran ever heard the above commentary about Exodus!

Islam also instructs that in love making both participants are to please one another.  D. explained that Muslim sex is like chocolate cake.  Both are wonderful, great, but should be enjoyed under certain circumstances.

In the Qur'an sexual pleasure is likened to the closest understanding that we will ever have about Heaven.  Unfortunately, in many current Muslim societies, people are so terrified of breaking boundaries that it is difficult for Muslims to enjoy sex as it is meant to be celebrated in the Qur'an.

Okay, Christian sex... since Jesus says nothing explicit about human sexuality (other than to love one another) many Christians turn to the writings of St. Paul.  Here's what he says in
1 Corinthians 7:1-15.  I have highlighted how extreme his admonitions are compared to Jewish and Islamic teachings:

1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Somehow in verse 5 Satan is connected with sexual desire and pleasure.  No wonder many Christians (including clergy) suffer from problems of sexual shame, confusion, abuse, addiction to pornography, pedophilia, and misogyny, to name just a few dysfunctions.   Why is Paul's commentary about Jesus' ministry lifted up, and included in Sunday readings?  Why in all three Abrahamic traditions does an individual's interpretation (historically a male) assume more importance than the original teachings?  (In other words, if Jesus does not speak about sex, why should Paul?)  Tradition, culture, and history often use commentary to put forward their own agenda.
             Hey, what about her husband's behavior being a threat to their marriage?





Women as Imams

Here is a great starting point for women leading group prayers in Islam!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_as_imams

Friday, February 22, 2013

I AM here to experience outrageous Joy! 

Today's quote is from Song of Solomon 6:2-3.  To be gender inclusive I am adding the feminine pronoun.

My beloved is gone down into her garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather lilies. I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine: s/he feedeth among the lilies.
                                             
 This morning's thought was inspired by Esther and Jerry Hick's teachings about the Law of Attraction.  For more information read:  Hicks, Esther and Jerry, 2004, Ask and It Is Given.  Carlsbad, CA: HAY HOUSE, INC.  (14.)

Thursday, February 21, 2013

When a Woman Is Given Revelation - Gender in Islam, Judaism, and Christianity




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Why is it that when men experience Divine revelation, in all three western religions, the human male is most often given credit for his role?   (When a woman experiences Divine revelation, often she is relegated to the background.)
 
Also, how are Hannah and Deborah uplifted in the Hebrew & Christian Scriptures?... Are their revelations attributed singularly to God?  Both Moses and Aaron receive instructions from Adonai in the book of Leviticus.  Prophet Miriam, Moses' sister, stands beside them throughout their journey. From her singing and leading people safely out of the Red Sea, she seems an empowered leader, as depicted in this painting.
 http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/76/Miriams_Tanz.jpg

However, she is not named in Leviticus.  Is her being afflicted with leprosy an act of Adonai in response to female insubordination? OR, are male Torah commentators unhappy about her large number of followers? Do they author a cautionary tale to prevent further competition with Moses?

Miriam's Well is not actually in the Torah because it is ubiquitous in Jewish life.
Miriam is called "Miriam the prophet" in the Torah (Exodus 15:20.)  The Torah itself does not mention the marvel/miracle known throughout Jewish history as Miriam's Well.  But the earliest Rabbinic literature explains how the death of each of the three leaders (Miriam, Aaron, Moses) in the wilderness included the great loss of a specific miracle for the people; in Miriam's case, the Well.  Miriam's Well was described as traveling with the people and having healing powers.  The proof text for this idea comes from Numbers 20: 1-2  ". . . Miriam died there and was buried there.  The community was without water, . . . "  Furthermore, in Rabbinic literature, Miriam is often written about in parallel to her brother Moses, and often given equal status.


What of Haajar (Hagar)?

Why is not more made of her conversation with Angel Gabriel and her journey which Muslim pilgrims follow? Historically, Hagar remains in the background.

Why in Christianity is the Gospel of Mary (Mary Magdalene) rarely discussed and not read aloud Sunday mornings alongside Mathew, Mark, Luke, and John?  http://www.gnosis.org/library/GMary-King-Intro.html

What of Mary's possible marriage to Jesus, as described in the rarely acknowledged Gospel of Philip?

Why are only men considered Jesus' disciples?  No one knows who attended Jesus' last supper. Mother Mary, along with Mary Magdalene, and the two faithful sisters Mary and Martha must have been present.   After all, they never left his side at his death (even though male followers ran away to save their lives.)

We can guess by context (and since Hebrew and Arabic are gendered languages) that the Divine, speaks through angels and directly to prophets, addressing in many cases both men and women. Why even today in 2013 are women still separated from the original experience and teaching?

M. remembers as a child how surprised she was to see Jesus' patriarchal lineage listed in the N.T.  Wasn't the Holy Spirit supposed to be his daddy?

D. teaches us that in the Qur'an when a man asks to whom is he to be dutiful, three times the answer is "to your mother."

http://lostislamichistory.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/Aurangzeb_Handwritten_Quran.jpg

Let us all reclaim that sacred duty.